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Living beyond feelings

Napoleon Hill

Napoleon Hill

“One must marry one’s feelings to one’s beliefs and ideas. That is probably the only way to achieve a measure of harmony in one’s life” – Napoleon Hill (1883-1970), American self help author

A spiritual leader does have ordinary human feelings and mood swings. But what makes him special is his life isn’t governed simply by how he feels; he lives by a purpose and even if it doesn’t feel good, but if it’s right and in line with his deeper values and mission in life, he does it. Spiritual leadership calls upon us to not blame our circumstances, or conditioning for our behaviours; instead our behaviour is a product of our own conscious choice, based on values.

A spiritual leader may have human frailties; he may also feel good when it rains or may be irritated by the traffic jam. However what makes him/her an inspiration is the refusal to allow his feelings to affect the attitude and performance. He’s determined to subordinate the ‘feelings’ and impulses to true values. The Canadian motivational speaker Brian Tracy put it succinctly, “Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance”

The common denominator of Success

Albert Gray was an official of the Prudential Insurance Company of America and had over three decades of continuous experience as a life insurance agent and instructor. During his inspirational address at the National convention in Philadelphia in 1940, he made a startling revelation based on his careful observations that he gathered during his intensive travel and study of success literature. He searched for the one common thing that all successful people share.

The common denominator of success

The common denominator of success

He reveals in his landmark lecture, ‘The common denominator of success’ that he’d grown in life thinking that hard work is the key to success. However his search revealed that hard work is certainly a requirement but not the key; he had also seen many hard working men not being successful. His thorough research led him to a profound realization, ‘the secret of success lay not only in what men did but also in what made them do it

His realization can be summed up in one sentence, “The successful person has the habit of doing the things failures don’t like to do. They don’t like doing them either necessarily. But their disliking is subordinated to the strength of their purpose” The burning ‘yes’ within for a deeper purpose and direction makes it possible to say ‘no’ to myriad feelings that disturb us time and again.

As various feelings swell up in the mind, a spiritual leader recognizes them to be the various birds that fly above our roofs. However the strength of his character is determined by his refusal to allow these ‘birds’ to build nests on his roof. He’s focused on the goal, and feelings don’t impede his pursuits.  As my spiritual teacher Radhanath Swami puts it, “We may have feelings and emotions but if these are founded on our misconceptions, they are simply a disturbance to our goal in life.” 

Teaching by example

Radhanath Swami was once scheduled to address two thousand Mumbaites in a youth festival. That morning he told me he was feeling sick and may not be able to give the class. The organizers of the event were nervous as the announcements and invitations to prominent people had already been made, and everyone expected Radhanath Swami to be there. Despite a high fever, he did make it to the programme and delivered a fantastic lecture, led kirtans and answered questions happily. Later at night I waited outside his room to thank him for extending himself. As I expressed gratitude, he in turn humbly thanked me for giving him a chance to serve; then he hugged me and said, “I don’t mind dying a thousand deaths if I can serve and please all of you.” That moment I realized his values were to serve and please; he often expresses the need for us to cultivate the mood of servitude. I realized then that not only he practises what he preaches, when occasions arise as on this evening, he also subordinates his feelings for a purpose he considers more important.

John-Wooden

John-Wooden

Of course he’s emphatically clarified on many occasions that we need to care for our bodies as well and take good care of our health. That night seeing Radhanath Swami’s ability to subordinate his own feelings for that of others, I retired reflecting on basketball legend John Wooden’s words of wisdom, “Consider the rights of others before your own feelings, and the feelings of others before your own rights”.

 

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About the Author

About the Author: A senior monk and a leader at the Radhagopinath Ashram, a monastery in Mumbai guided by Radhanath Swami, Vrajabihari Das is a board member of the CSV, a Council that provides spiritual vision to the Ashram. Also a prolific writer, he is a regular contributor to Back To Godhead, an international magazine on spirituality. And on the web, he blogs on krishnayoga.info and radhanath-swami.net Venugopal topped Mumbai University in International Finance during his Masters. He then did his MBA. Though a flourishing career awaited him, he chose to become a monk, so as to dedicate his life for the welfare of society. And sure enough, Venugopal today serves as a lifestyle counselor for hundreds in India. His spiritual wisdom and genuine compassion flows freely, irrespective of whether he is counseling, discoursing or writing. .

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  1. satyam says:

    a wonderful and an inspirational article, will try to apply in my life
    thank you

  2. Kiran says:

    Its a habit in this world to act and as per ones own feeling and urges, but saintly persons like Radhanath Maharaj reminds us of our true duty i.e to serve…

  3. Rajendra Prasad says:

    This article is inspiration for all who are seeking spiritual development. Scarificing own feelings and comfort for the welfare of ohters – symptom of servitude leadership. Thanks a lot for wonderful article.

  4. vrushali says:

    “I don’t mind dying a thousand deaths if I can serve and please all of you.” These words show Radhanath swami’s boundless love and compassion for all Vaishnavas!

  5. N. Swaminathan says:

    Straight to the point – leader is not governed by mood swings, he works not by what makes him feel good but what is right.

  6. Vidya Patham says:

    Wonderful thought provoking article. In most circumstances we allow our feelings and emotions to overpower our intelligence and thus end up taking wrong decisions or making mistakes. Thank you so much for sharing Radhanath Swami’s insights and example to show us how our emotions should not be treated as important as our life’s goals especially if they are in conflict with them.

  7. Arjun K Ramachandra says:

    So many wonderful points in this article but i particularly liked the point by Albert Gray “the secret of success lay not only in what men did but also in what made them do it”.

  8. Kalpana Kulkarni says:

    Thank you for the wonderful article filled with realizations which will help us to reach our goal on the spiritual path.

  9. Aishwarya says:

    Very inspirational quotes-
    “One must marry one’s feelings to one’s beliefs and ideas. That is probably the only way to achieve a measure of harmony in one’s life”
    “We may have feelings and emotions but if these are founded on our misconceptions, they are simply a disturbance to our goal in life.”
    “Consider the rights of others before your own feelings, and the feelings of others before your own rights”.

  10. samir paleja says:

    “Consider the rights of others before your own feelings, and the feelings of others before your own rights”. Very true.

  11. navin poojary says:

    very true…The common denominator of success in our lives is our strong pull from within and how we dovetail our activities towards achieving it

  12. Damodar says:

    A leader must do what is right although he may not feel it to be done. This makes a leader a true leader who sacrifices his personal feelings for what it right. Thanks for starting this website based on teachings of Radhanath swami.

  13. Riya says:

    Very inspiring- “refusal to allow his feelings to affect the attitude and performance”

  14. Shridhar says:

    Selfless and higjly enlightened personality like Radhanath swami only could do such sacrifices to help youths.

  15. Anand says:

    Spiritual leaders like Radhanath Swami Maharaj lead the masses by their personal example and show how to subordinate one’s feeling while extending oneself for welfare of others. This article really touched my heart.

  16. Jagannath Dham Das says:

    Thank you very much HG VrajVihari Pr for writing an article on such an important subject of feelings. HH Radhanath Swami Maharaj’s statement on how our feelings & emotions should be based on right understanding is the essence of this article !
    Hare Krishna !

  17. Saurabh says:

    Amazing lessons – a leader must learn to channelize his emotions and not overpower by them.

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